Injustice and food disorders – how nastiness makes you gain weight
Throughout my life I’ve encountered countless women and men complaining about their weight, telling me about their latest diet—from paleo to intermittent fasting— while explaining the latest in weight loss to me. Some of the advice included more discipline, likening to your body, not eating certain foods, more sport, getting your hormones under control, all to balance weight. Weight and body image are the sum total of various items. This article focuses on one that hasn’t been taken into consideration enough, an item with severe effect: injustice.
Once, there was a man who went into law suit against his landlord. He gained 60 pounds in the process. Then, there was this girl who was part of the cheerleading squad. She quit, after a while, ad ever since she hates her body. Or, the pupil who is constantly bullied stops eating. S/he simply wishes to vanish from this earth.
Injustice has the power to change your weight, your decision making, your habits, even your self-care and love. Injustice weighs heavily on us and when prolonged it can lead to severe forms of eating disorders, including binge eating, anorexia or bulimia.
The next paragraphs explain what injustice is, describe its effects on body weight and diet and explain why prolonged injustices can be linked to eating disorders. It’s meant to inspire a new way of thinking but cannot replace any consultation with your trusted therapist
It is fascinating that throughout the world, no matter the ethnical or religious background, unfairness is what riles children and teenagers most. I work with school children a lot, both in workshop groups and individually, and whenever I ask them what their ideal kingdom looks like, they come up with very clear answers. Their values include kindness, protecting environment and being fair. They have a set of rules they follow and believe in and want friends with similar values. My work made one thing clear: nothing weighs as heavily, hurts as much as injustice. So why is that?
Justice is ingrained in us. We were all born with an innate sense for right and wrong and throughout life this raw diamond is polished. Pressure and experience make it shine. Injustice can leave a dint or dent.
Injustice is a behaviour that goes against
– a person’s innate sense of justice
– a moral code or ethical standard held high by your community
– a law accepted as fair and just*.
The personal sense of justice can be a compass. Selfishness, ego, or fear can cause it to be distorted. As can a closed off heart. The less energy flowing freely in a heart the less able one is to relate to others, and the more likely this person’s decisions will become selfish, crude, adamantine or even malicious over time.
Injustice can be caused by external or internal forces. Bullying, a bad divorce, a dispute between neighbours are all external. They encompass something that can be seen, touched, described and perceived by others.
Internal injustice has its roots inside oneself. Here are two examples to explain the difference:a cheerleading squat putting pressure on a girl to loose weight is an external injustice.
A girl looking at herself in the mirror and telling herself she is too fat would be qualified an internal injustice. Accuser, judge, executor and executed are identical in the latter case.
EFFECTS ON BODY, WEIGHT AN DIET
I’ve seen people loosing their good posture due to constant criticism. As injustice weighs heavily on the shoulders, it is capable of deforming your spine. Some people find it hard to breath when faced with injustice or develop some form of rash or acne while others get bloated.
Injustice makes you doubt yourself, destroys your faith in others and/or God and therefor makes you vulnerable and open for eating disorders.
As Dr. Anita Johnston shows in her work, an eating disorder is what she calls the red herring, something to distract you from the real problem. Injustice can be the real cause of an eating disorder as it destroys the foundations one built so thoroughly.
Self-doubt, anger, feeling victimised or incapable, sadness, and (self-)hatred can be the result of injustice. Self-doubt makes you question your choices, unsure of yourself and starting to second-guess your inner wisdom. And your inner wisdom knows what you need, what is really healthy for you. Your inner wisdom will guide you through any situation. Except when your foundation have been rattled, shaken, or destroyed, you doubt your self. And start buying books and reading blogs about healthy diets.
A wisdom-guided person—WGP—will do the same thing, but with a different outcome. A WGP will read the book and decide for themselves what to take in and what not. A person full of self-doubt will follow the book to the letter, ignoring the little voice of warning that kale isn’t a great choice for them.
Anger, if suppressed, requires a lot of energy. Something to hold the lid firmly on the boiling pot. Anger is an emotion o the liver. When anger needs to be suppressed one might feel a stronger affinity for alcoholic beverages. Or simply eat more so the liver has too much to do to worry about your anger. All the emotions cause by injustice will—if not addressed correctly—cause some implosion. Food is and always has been linked with comfort, relationship, celebration, and healing. So it’s understandable to turn to food when everything else has failed.
As said, eating disorders are there to distract from a deeper injustice. Someone constantly breaking your boundaries, someone intruding on your innermost sanctuary, someone telling you again and again you are wrong. Being laughed at, made fun of, discriminated, when taken to heart will cause an avalanche of trouble. Because severe injustice hurts your soul. Remember justice in ingrained in us. We were born with the innate sense of justice and it is a part of our selves, our souls.
What you need to save your soul is to face the injustice. You need to learn the tools or get the help in overcoming the despicable game some out of synch characters a re playing. You need to free yourself, step out of the vicious web and get back on track.
If you don’t know how, contact me.